Showing posts with label growth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label growth. Show all posts

Tuesday, 21 March 2017

Avoidance vs Acceptance & Mindfully "Leaning In" with Curiosity


     “A wide range of research reviewed shows that many forms of psychopathology can be conceptualized as unhealthy efforts to escape and avoid emotions, thoughts, memories, and other private experiences.”  
       Hayes SC, Wilson KW, Gifford EV, Follette VM, Strosahl K. “Emotional avoidance and behavioral disorders: A functional dimensional approach to diagnosis and treatment.” Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 1996; 64(6): 1152–68.

     “Elvin Semrad taught us that most human suffering is related to love and loss and that the job of therapists is to help people ‘acknowledge, experience, and bear’ the reality of life – with all its pleasures and heartbreak. ‘The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves,’ he’d say, urging us to be honest with ourselves about every facet of our experience. He often said that people can never get better without knowing what they know and feeling what they feel.”

       Bessel Van Der Kolk. “The Body Keeps the Score. Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.” Penguin Books, 2015.

     “The theoretical framework of mindfulness holds that the continual practice of bringing one’s attention to the present moment, and allowing what is in that moment simply to be, eventually leads to a shift in perception in which thoughts and feelings may be observed as arising events. With increased ability to become witness to thoughts, rather than immersed in their valence and content, there follows increased psychological flexibility, enhanced emotion regulation, and reduced rumination.

     An interesting observation in this study was that participation in MBSR was associated with reductions in PTSD symptoms, most strongly among them avoidance. Recent thinking in the field of trauma asserts that avoidance, the effort to escape or hide from traumatic thoughts, feelings, or memories, is the core psychological process underlying the development and continuation of PTSD. Avoidant coping strategies include attempts to suppress intrusive thoughts, to take oneself away from negatively evocative situations, engage in substance use, or through emotional numbing. Therapeutic approaches that prescribe the opposite of avoidance, i.e., acceptance, can serve as a form of exposure and work to alleviate avoidant tendencies. In offering acceptance of the present moment, MBSR may be such a therapy. The mindfulness approach is that through openness, curiosity, and acceptance of the present moment, one’s relationship with negative thoughts is altered. By fostering a greater comfort level with thoughts previously avoided, mindfulness practice allows them to surface and, as such, mindfulness may serve as a form of exposure in its impact on PTSD symptoms. 
     In addition to contributing to a survivor’s ability to be present to his or her own painful emotional experience, mindfulness skills also may enhance one’s capacity to be present in psychological therapy. In this way, mindfulness may potentiate therapeutic work. The exploration of this synergy should be a topic of future empirical investigation. Thus, MBSR may serve as a widely available, potentially cost-effective way for clients to gain a foundation in mindfulness skills.”  
       Kimbrough E, Magyari T, Langenberg P, Chesney M, Berman B. “Mindfulness intervention for child abuse survivors.” Journal of Clinical Psychology 2010; 66(1): 17–33.


 
Courtesy of Buddha Doodles www.buddhadoodles.com

Wednesday, 10 June 2015

Well-being - a Lifelong Journey towards Wisdom

"Well-being in old age is to a large extent the result of 
psychosocial development and growth 
across the life course, 
conceptualized as wisdom."


Monika Ardelt PhD - speaking at the University of Chicago, Wisdom Research Forum, May 8, 2015


Friday, 5 June 2015

My Story - for Now

     "And that's the spirit in which I write, as a co-explorer, knowing that I'll probably see things differently as time passes and my questions get deeper still. I must be patient and remember the fragility of what I think I know. We have a duty to offer our own stories, however, just in case something we say does touch someone else in a positive way. Stories of struggle can be especially important, because we all struggle. In the same way, stories of how we have overcome our challenges might help inspire others to believe that they too can overcome."

       Rupert Ross. "Indigenous Healing. Exploring Traditional Paths." Penguin, Toronto, 2014.

Randy Charboneau

Friday, 29 May 2015

Meaningful Learning is Transformative AND Initially Uncomfortable

     "Fundamentally, transformative learning is a process whereby individuals engage in critical reflection to develop new perspectives, skills, and behaviors.
     Specifically, the process of transformative learning begins with experiencing a disorienting dilemma**, which is a life event that causes the learner to pause and question underlying beliefs and assumptions. The next and perhaps the most important phase is critically reflecting on the disorienting dilemma to expose the learner’s limitations and areas for improvement. The learner then addresses these limitations by acquiring new knowledge, skills, or attitudes. Ultimately, these newly developed skills will transform the learner by providing him or her with fresh perspectives and powerful means for enacting improvement." 

       Wittich CM et al. "Transformative Learning: A Framework Using Critical Reflection to Link the Improvement Competencies in Graduate Medical Education." Academic Medicine 2010; 85(11): 1790-3.


     ** a minor "shipwreck": http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2012/05/self-concept-worldview.html

Citadel Hill, Halifax, NS

Monday, 16 February 2015

Oceans of Choices

     We live in strange times: all manner of ideas & images, from all manner of people, are instantly available to even our youngest children. We are awash in choices, ethical dilemmas, global moral ambiguity, with eruptions of irrational violence - the swagger of the simple-minded.
     The web provides endless possibilities for causing ourselves and others suffering: violent porn, slick enticements to join violent extremist groups, instructions to make bombs, enticements to 'invest' life savings in crazy schemes, 'TV evangelists', online gambling, zealous testimonials for bizarre 'therapies', hair-raising testimonials against standard therapies, and every other form of psychopathology one can imagine. Opportunities to wallow in self-inflicted misery and to inflict horrific suffering on others seem endless.
     Mercifully, the web also provides access to decent, intelligent, evolved, well-meaning human beings, as well as the literature of the world's wisdom traditions. Should we choose to do so, we can find inspiration to grow in wisdom, instead of wallowing in self-inflicted misery.

               CHOICE ! http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2013/08/381-each-moment-new-beginning.html






Thursday, 5 February 2015

Transcending Outgrown Paradigms, Persistently

     "The exploration of the highest reaches of human nature and of its ultimate possibilities and aspirations ... has involved for me the continuous destruction of cherished axioms, the perpetual coping with seeming paradoxes, contradictions and vagueness, and the occasional collapse around my ears of long established, firmly believed in, and seemingly unassailable laws of psychology."                               Abraham Maslow


       Maslow A. "Toward a Psychology of Being" ed2. Van Nostrand, Princeton, 1968.
       quoted in: Roger Walsh. “The World of Shamanism. New Views of an Ancient Tradition.” Llewellyn Publications, Woodbury, Minnesota, 2007.

     Getting there: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2012/05/self-concept-worldview.html

      Resulting in: http://www.johnlovas.com/2014/02/direct-intimacy-with-daily-life.html
                   and: http://www.johnlovas.com/2013/06/wisdom-is-as-wisdom-does-walking-talk.html



Sunday, 28 December 2014

Thriving at the Growing Edge


     "It is so easy to banish areas of pain from the warmth and love of my heart. Aversion to discomfort is a rejection of the pain. It also marginalizes a central part of the truth of what is happening. Opening to pain is a persistent practice, and at this edge I learn much. 
     I have found that it is vital to touch discomfort with an awareness that is forgiving, accepting, and loving.”

       Harrison G. “In the lap of the Buddha.” Shambhala, Boston, 1994.


emilyaharrington, National Geographic   http://photography.nationalgeographic.com

Tuesday, 26 August 2014

"Practice" - What Does this Really Mean?

     We "practice" dentistry or law etc. and over a life-long career, we tend to gain valuable "practical" experience, which benefits our patients / clients. "Practice makes perfect."
     Besides obviously knowing more, what changes do we undergo as a direct result of practicing a profession, trade or craft over a long period of time?
     It's now well-known that progressive functional & structural changes ("neuroplasticity") occur in the brain (and rest of the body) of people who practice any skill eg musicians.  
     For thousands of years, "practices" such as sitting meditation, tai chi, qi gong, tea ceremony, ikebana (flower arranging), etc have been performed specifically to cultivate the practitioner's character or spirit. Sadly, present-day society - perhaps even in the East - is generally unaware of this highest form of "practice". The effects of these practices are meant to extend into, and transform, all of the practitioner's activities - her entire life. 
     Any activity, including one's work, can be - and ideally is - a "practice" in this deepest way.

       "From the age of six I had a mania for drawing the form of things. By the time I was fifty I had published an infinity of designs. But all I have produced before the age of seventy is not worth taking into account. At seventy-three, I have learned a little about the real structure of nature, of animals, plants, trees, birds, fishes and insects. In consequence, when I am eighty, I shall have made still more progress. At ninety I shall penetrate the mystery of things; at one hundred I shall certainly have reached a marvelous stage; and when I am one hundred and ten, everything I do, be it a dot or a line, will be alive. I beg those who live as long as I to see if I do not keep my word."
                            Written at the age of seventy-five by me,
                            once Hokusai, today Gwakyo Rojin,
                            The Old Man Mad about Drawing (1835)

       Quote from: Larry Rosenberg. Three Steps to Awakening. A Practice for Bringing Mindfulness to Life. Shambhala, Boston, 2013. 


Near Eagle Lake, August 2014

Friday, 18 July 2014

Conscious, Intentional, Healthy Maturation

     We've had, and continue to have, amazingly inspiring individuals among us: Henry David Thoreau, Mahatma Gandhi, Deepa Ma, Viktor Frankl, Terry Fox, Martin Luther King Jr, Nelson Mandela, Dalai Lama, etc.
     And we have individuals among us who, at best, elicit our mercy & forgiveness

     "the measure of a civilization's growth is in its ability to transfer increasing amounts of energy & attention from the material side of life to the psychological, cultural, aesthetic, & spiritual side of life."                                        Arnold Toynbee's Law of Progressive Simplification
       Joel & Michelle Levey. Living in Balance: A Mindful Guide for Thriving in a Complex World. Divine Arts; Revised ed'n (Aug 12, 2014)

     OUR individual responsibility is to lead civilization, by being the best human being we can be. See: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2014/07/552-greatest-risk-of-all.html



Tuesday, 15 July 2014

Can We Really Know Anyone - even Ourself?

     A senior meditation teacher once advised: "Only don't know."

     A definition of expert: "One who's incapable of learning."

     "The Renaissance is all about secret transformations. Human beings - we're not objects, we're not things. We are alive & changing every minute. Our very nature is change. Our very nature is transformation - which we forget, because we say "Oh that person is like that." And we forget they're like that today, but they could be like something else tomorrow, and maybe they were something else two weeks ago
     We keep actually putting labels on people and typing them. And in fact the one thing about human beings is that we're quicksilver, endlessly transforming and changeable." 

     Peter Sellars, American theatre director, interviewed by Eleanor Wachtel on CBC Radio:
     http://www.cbc.ca/player/Radio/Ideas/ID/2442656684/

Corner Store, Rome, Italy
 

Wednesday, 14 May 2014

When Fear becomes Old ...

     “How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.
     I have watched people choose growth over fear as they navigated some of life’s most difficult transitions. I have seen how it is possible to approach the challenges of real life with openness and optimism – even with wisdom and joy.” 

 
       Lesser E. “Broken open. How difficult times can help us grow.” Villard, NY, 2005. 


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Saturday, 3 May 2014

Wisdom - at Our Best

"That man is best who sees the truth himself.
Good too is he who listens to wise counsel.
But who is neither wise himself nor willing
to ponder wisdom is not worth a straw."          

       Hesiod, Greek poet 750-650 BCE

 
Réka Zsimon, National Geographic   http://photography.nationalgeographic.com

Friday, 27 December 2013

Asceticism - Secular & Spiritual

     "The word 'asceticism' comes from the Greek term askesis, which originally referred to training athletes. If you want to win the race, you've got to train; you've got to look at your exercise regime. You've got to look at your diet and your sleep, and conduct, because if you don't, you're not going to win the race. So the asceticism an athlete undertakes depends upon putting some other things aside. If you want to be a doctor, you've got to go through the mill of medical training, working a hundred hours or more a week as a junior doctor, being tested under grueling conditions so you can become a healer. That enormous degree of renunciation, which involves laying aside other interests and concerns, is completely accepted by society. If we aspire to the spiritual version of that same kind of training in order to realize our potential, we have to prioritize the way we spend our time and where we put our energy."
     Ajahn Amaro

Steve McCurry   http://stevemccurry.com/

Sunday, 15 December 2013

Spiritual Practices - As Meaningful & Relevant As Ever

     "A spiritual practice or spiritual discipline (often including spiritual exercises) is the regular or full-time performance of actions & activities undertaken for the purpose of cultivating spiritual development. A common metaphor used in the spiritual traditions of the world's great religions is that of walking a path. Therefore a spiritual practice moves a person along a path towards a goal. The goal is variously referred to as salvation, liberation or union (with ultimate reality or "God"). A person who walks such a path is sometimes referred to as a wayfarer or a pilgrim." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_practice

     "The term spirituality lacks a definitive definition, although social scientists have defined spirituality as the search for 'the sacred,' where "the sacred" is broadly defined as that which is set apart from the ordinary and worthy of veneration.
     The use of the term
'spirituality' has changed throughout the ages. In modern times, spirituality is often separated from Abrahamic religions, and connotes a blend of humanistic psychology with mystical & esoteric traditions & eastern religions aimed at personal well-being & personal development. The notion of 'spiritual experience' plays an important role in modern spirituality, but has a relatively recent origin.
     Social scientists have defined spirituality as the search for the sacred, for that which is set apart from the ordinary and worthy of veneration, 'a transcendent dimension within human experience ... discovered in moments in which the individual questions the meaning of personal existence and attempts to place the self within a broader ontological context.'

     Spirituality can be sought not only through traditional organized religions, but also through movements such as liberalism, feminist theology, & green politics. Spirituality is also now associated with mental health, managing substance abuse, marital functioning, parenting, & coping. It has been suggested that spirituality also leads to finding purpose & meaning in life." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spirituality

     See: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/search?q=meaning
     and: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/search?q=meaning

Kazuki Yamamoto - Japanese barista extraordinaire

Sunday, 24 November 2013

Going Well Beyond Limiting Self-concepts

     It's so encouraging to read about the powerful energy good mentors can awaken in young people: http://medicine.dal.ca/facultystaff/our-learners/profiles/cinera_states.html
     Cinera's story reminds me of an old (unethical by today's standards) experiment in which a group of young students was divided evenly with respect to intelligence, academic performance etc. Then one group was formally informed that they were "gifted", while the other (intellectually-matched) group was informed that they were "slow learners". They then carefully proceeded to teach both groups the same curriculum, in the same manner. At the end of the academic year, the "gifted" group markedly outperformed the "slow" group. Henry Ford's famous saying rings true - "Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right!"

     Probably most, if not all of us, have at some point been lead to believe that we're "no good" at something, or that we're just plain "no good." We internalize such psychological wounds more than we may ever realize. Pessimism is today's global de facto dogma. So it's vitally important to question our self-concept, to question our worldview because both of these, for the vast majority of us, are limited & distorted by psychological scars. We need wise mentors more than ever.

     “There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”             Nelson Mandela

     "Resilience refers to the ability to thrive despite adversity and has been defined as a multidimensional phenomenon, spanning internal locus of control, sense of meaning, social problem-solving skills, and self-esteem. The concept of hardiness integrates many of these characteristics and describes individuals who are committed to finding meaningful purpose in life, believe that one can influence one’s surroundings and the outcome of events, and trust that one can learn and grow from both positive and negative life experiences. High levels of this personality trait have been shown to enhance posttraumatic adjustment, possibly by means of a faster physiological recovery from stress."
        Daniels JK et al. Neural correlates and predictive power of trait resilience in an acutely traumatized sample: a pilot investigation. J Clin Psychiatry 2012; 73(3): 327-32.


     "As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."            Marianne Williamson


     See "Our Self-concepts & Worldviews Must Mature": http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2013/11/443-our-self-concepts-worldviews-must.html

MiltonC   www.dpreview.com

Friday, 26 July 2013

Psychosocial Needs, Growth & Integration

     "Historically, many psychological theorists have assumed that the psyche contains its own natural or inherent principles that promote growth, integration, and the resolution of psychological inconsistencies and conflicts.
     These principles have been described by many constructs, including the synthetic function of the ego; individuation; the actualizing tendency; organization; and the orthogenetic principle.
     Although theories containing such constructs differ greatly in details and tenor, they share the assumption that innate tendencies toward assimilation and integration play a critical role in social development. 

     ... integrative processes are highly dependent upon contextual supports for basic psychological needs. Insofar as the nutriments relevant to psychological needs vary across contexts or domains, so too will the relative strength of integrative propensities, and one's experience of integrity and autonomy in functioning. Contexts where psychological needs are neglected or frustrated promote fragmentation and alienation, rather than integration and congruence.


     Within the framework of self-determination theory there are three essential needs for psychological growth and well-being — the needs for autonomy, competence,
and relatedness. Support for autonomy, for effectance, and for feelings of connection with others is argued to be the prerequisite for optimum functioning of these organismic integrative processes."
       Ryan RM. Psychological needs and the facilitation of integrative processes. J Pers 1995; 63(3): 397-427.
 
Roberto Peradotto   www.dpreview.com

Saturday, 15 June 2013

Self-understanding, Healing Yourself - THEN You Can Help Others

     Celebrated performance artist Marina Abramovic, currently performing in Toronto, on the positive role of suffering & the road to real happiness:

     “Do you think that every ancient civilization’s sacred rituals ‘abused’ the body in order to become a shaman, or in order to go from childhood to puberty – when they send the kids into the forest & they have to survive in order to learn what loneliness means, what it means being in the wild, what it means getting food for yourself, or hundreds of other rituals where you almost have to face clinically dying in order to create a different state of consciousness? Why are we doing this? Why call this ‘abuse’? Suffering is good for us, IF we see the context, IF we see the concept, IF we see the idea behind it. We suffer because we are just temporary on this planet – the moment you’re born, you’re going to die. Just general human suffering that’s expressed in so many ways – the suffering of loneliness, the suffering of not being loved, not understanding the world, not understanding what the purpose of your life is, there are so many different ways. Just that kind of suffering - every human being has this.
     Pain is another obstacle – we’re so afraid of pain. But what I’m doing in my life, I’m staging painful experiences in front of an audience and using the energy of the audience I’m going through this experience in front of them and actually seeing how I can push my mental-physical borders. If I can do it myself, they can do it in their own lives. That’s the way I’m doing it. I don’t see this as abuse.

       Jian Ghomeshi: Do you think that the pursuit of happiness - that Americans have held to such a high standard – do you think that’s folly?
 


     No, it’s so wonderful. Right now, you’re facing me, and I’m the happy person in this moment. It took me 40 years to come to that point that I actually feel happy. It’s been such a long journey, but it’s really about fully understanding yourself. You see the concept of happiness is not about having more cars, and having more money in the bank, and then go and take drugs, and drink like hell, and then suicide because you can’t deal with yourself. Happiness comes from fully understanding your own being – and this is such a long journey. And all these things, at least in my work I’ve been doing was going towards this transformation where actually you come to that kind of knowledge. And you come to that kind of knowledge, that type of happiness, you actually come to that point where you can help others to understand that."
       Marina Abramovic interview by Jian Ghomeshi on CBC Radio - starts precisely @ 0:25:35/1:09:03 see: "Eroding gay rights in Russia, Artist Marina Abramovic, Inventor Mick Ebeling 06/12/2013" http://www.cbc.ca/q/episodes/

     See: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2012/03/approach-avoidance-dichotomy.html

     A true artist shows society what it can't see on its own.

Udayan Sankar Pal   www.facebook.com/UdayanSankarPal

Tuesday, 23 April 2013

Misbehavior & Inappropriate Shame; Appropriate Guilt & Perfection in an Imperfect World

     While mediating disagreements between students & students, staff & students, staff & faculty, or between students and faculty, I'm always impressed by how differently each side relates their version of the same event. As in the news, there is vehement denial of any wrongdoing. I'm starting to think that people actually believe what they're saying, even when there's overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
     When a person does something harmful, I suspect that they FEEL COMPELLED, DRIVEN to do it - everything in their life, up to this point in time, "made them" behave in this way. It seemed reasonable to them at the time - inevitable. They DON'T do this because they want to "be bad." If they eventually admit to committing the offense, they tend to deflect blame, pointing out who or what "made them do it".
     People seem to be losing the ability to accept blame for harmful inappropriate actions - they cannot take direct personal responsibility - they find GUILT unacceptable. Perhaps they "reason": since I'm not evil, I could not have done this, or at least, could not be responsible. Even when "caught red-handed", they flatly deny everything AND angrily accuse their accusers of humiliating them. They feel SHAME, but seem incapable of feeling appropriate GUILT.
     Yet, in order to grow as a responsible adult, one must learn to accept responsibility for, and correct inappropriate behavior WITHOUT feeling diminished as a human being.
     Everyone's behavior is, at times, mindlessly harmful, and needs to be corrected. AT THE SAME TIME, deep within, we all contain a seed of perfection (according to most wisdom traditions). Every one of us is capable of thinking, speaking and acting, with increasing consistency, from this place of wisdom & stillness, instead of mindlessly acting out of self-centered primitive reflexes. We need to intentionally nurture this normal, healthy maturation process within ourselves and those around us.
     See also: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2013/04/self-conscious-shame-guilt-and-basic.html

LolloRiva   www.dpreview.com

Friday, 19 April 2013

Fear, Avoidance, Ineffective, Existential Angst, Mindfulness, Effective Maturation

     For any educated person it's obvious that by learning about a situation, we can better control it, and thus ensure a better outcome. (There's a large body of research about "self-efficacy": http://cancercontrol.cancer.gov/Brp/constructs/self-efficacy/index.html)
     Yet, despite all our education and unlimited information literally at our finger tips, we are far less rational and infinitely more emotional than we assume.
     Fear easily derails our rationality and behavior. What do we fear? Like everyone, we fear change, aging, sickness & death. And these phenomena are omnipresent - we exist in a sea of constantly changing phenomena, everyone aging, sickness & death everywhere, sparing no one.
     Fear (eg stress & shame) can shut down the prefrontal cortex, allowing the brain stem run the show. Avoidance is a very common, terribly ineffective way of dealing with things we fear. There's a reason for the high rate of workaholism, alcoholism, substance use, problem gambling, and other compulsive escapist behaviors.
     Instead of avoiding, intelligent people approach challenges. “One of the mantras of social work is ‘lean into the discomfort of the work.’” Brene Brown PhD  Obviously it's wisest to approach one's life in general intentionally, with clarity of mind.
     See: http://www.johnlovas.com/2013/08/dealing-with-fear-skillfully.html

     Mindfulness practice is an evidence-based, surprisingly gentle yet effective way of learning about ourselves, approaching & embracing our entire experience - including fears, and thereby learning to feel at home with & find joy in this very life.

     See: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2012/03/88-avoidance-approach-dichotomy.html
     also: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/search?q=avoidance
     and: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2013/04/316-fear-reactivity-mindfulness-mature.html

Gellert Baths, Hungary 1930, Hans Hildenbrand - National Geographic

Tuesday, 17 April 2012

Blind Spots - Common & Normal


     Years ago, while driving in heavy Toronto traffic, I looked in the side mirror and without turning to look directly, I quickly switched into the lane to my right. In the process, I cut off a (marked) police car and scared the heck out of one of the policemen. Obviously I had not seen them - they were in my "blind spot." Of course I would have seen them, had I appropriately turned to look directly.
     How many times have we done regrettable things and wondered "What was I thinking?" We now clearly see what was invisible to us then. Most of these blind spots are developmental-stage dependent. We were simply too "young, dumb, and (possibly) full of rum".
     It's so important to realize that we have a huge potential for continued growth as human beings. If we must define ourselves, can it be as a "work-in-progress" or perhaps a verb instead of a noun? Instead of having simplistic "premature closure" about infinitely complex, fluid, ever-changing reality, can we not instead wonder about the mystery of "Who am I?" and "What is this?"
     Our life is "a complex process that includes changes in biological, cognitive, emotional, social, spiritual, and moral dimensions.”
       Parks SD. “Big questions, worthy dreams. Mentoring young adults in their search for meaning, purpose, and faith.” John Wiley & Sons, San Francisco, 2000.
 
Photo: eric87   www.dpreview.com