Thursday 29 January 2015

Self-abuse - Self-compassion - Responsibility

And love
Says,

"I will,
I will take care of you,"

To everything that is
Near.                                                        Hafiz                     translated by Daniel Ladinsky 1999 The Gift


     Wow - sounds like even more pressure! Most of us health-care professionals are obsessive, perfectionist doers, curers, fixers, pleasers to everyone around us. We're willing to work ourselves to death in order to feel some semblance of self-worth. But we know that this is extremely unhealthy. We need to practice being in wiser relationship with our inner and outer world, despite our strong tendency to be externally focused. See: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2015/01/628-cultivating-self-compassion.html
     So step one is adopting a contemplative practice - having a good look at how our mind operates. But of course we have to bring gentleness to this challenging process. An immersion course in mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR), especially with fellow health-care professionals, is ideal for many of us. For example: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2013/03/8-week-mindfulness-ce-course-for-health.html
     Dysfunctional attempts at "self-care" (overeating, drug-abuse, hoarding, gambling, etc) are epidemic. Intelligent self-care is a professional responsibility. To live our life in the most wholesome, balanced, meaningful manner possible, is something we owe to life and to ourselves.
     Be well!


Tuesday 27 January 2015

Basic Values - Trans-situational Goals, Guiding Principles

     "Schwartz sought to identify a comprehensive set of basic values that are recognized in all societies. He defined basic values as trans-situational goals, varying in importance, that serve as guiding principles in the life of a person or group.
     He theorized that basic values are organized into a coherent system that underlies and can help to explain individual decision making, attitudes, and behavior. This coherent structure arises from the social and psychological conflict or congruity between values that people experience when they make everyday decisions.
     values are likely to be universal because they are grounded in one or more of three universal requirements of human existence with which people must cope: needs of individuals as biological organisms, requisites of coordinated social interaction, and survival and welfare needs of groups.
     values ... focus on 
          • attaining personal or social outcomes,
          • promote growth and self-expansion or anxiety-avoidance and self-protection,
          • express openness to change or conservation of the status quo, and
          • promote self-interest or transcendence of self-interest in the service of others."
 
       Schwartz SH, Cieciuch J, Vecchione M, Davidov E, Fischer R, Beierlein C, et al. Refining the theory of basic individual values. Journal of personality and social psychology. 2012;103(4):663-88.


from Schwartz et al 2012 (see text above)
 

Monday 26 January 2015

Act Your Age

     "Since every particle in your body goes back to the first flaring forth of space and time, you're really as old as the universe. So when you are lobbying at your congressperson's office, or visiting your local utility, or testifying at a hearing on nuclear waste, or standing up to protect an old grove of redwoods, you are doing that not out of some personal whim, but in the full authority of your 15 billions years."                                Joanna Macy
 
       http://joannamacy.net/thegreatturning/personal-guidelines-t.html



Friday 23 January 2015

Mindfulness at the 2015 World Economic Forum

Amid the Chattering of the Global Elite, a Silent Interlude
By DAVID GELLES
DAVOS, Switzerland, January 21, 2015

          For 10 minutes at the World Economic Forum here on Wednesday afternoon, a conference room jammed with more than 100 high-powered delegates was entirely silent.
          The rare interlude of equanimity came during a panel called Leading Mindfully, a discussion of how meditation was impacting the workplace.
          And with a mix of breathing instructions, management theory and personal reflection, the session provided a stark counterpoint to the frenzied discussions about geopolitical instability, currency fluctuations and climate change in nearby rooms.
          "This is a very unusual event at the World Economic Forum, and it's diagnostic of something much larger that is happening," said Jon Kabat-Zinn, a molecular biologist who helped popularize mindfulness meditation in recent decades. "What was once considered a radical, lunatic, fringe thing has been incorporated into medicine, science, academics and more."

          In recent years, meditation has grown more prominent in the business world. Companies including General Mills, Aetna and BlackRock are teaching meditation to their employees, and students at Harvard Business School can take classes on mindful leadership.
          "Even Goldman Sachs is doing it," said William George, a member of the Goldman Sachs board who was on the panel and says hundreds of the investment banks employees regularly meditate.
          At the same time, hospitals, schools, sports teams and the military are promoting incorporating mindfulness in to their training.
          "Teachers are desperate to teach kids how to pay attention, rather than screaming at them," said Mr. Kabat-Zinn.

          In Davos, meditation has been on the agenda for each of the last few years. But this year, there was more interest than ever, according to Mr. Kabat-Zinn. An upcoming panel at the event will explore how meditation changes the brain, and this year, Mr. Kabat-Zinn is leading popular meditation sessions each day at 8 a.m.
          "A few years ago no one showed up," he said.
The panelists, who also included Arianna Huffington, spent time discussing how meditation can benefit workers, but the highlight of the event was the meditation session.
          Led by Mr. Kabat-Zinn, the stretch of silence was intended to get delegates out of their heads, and instead notice what was happening around them.
          "The first thing we notice when we practice mindfulness is how mindless we are," said Mr. Kabat-Zinn, defining mindfulness as "paying attention, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally."
          The serenity was occasionally broken by the voices of other delegates in the halls, buzzing about contemporaneous panels including "The Geo-Economics of Energy" or "China's Impact as a Global Investor."
          And the silence was too awkward for restless participants. Several people left during the meditation session, while others checked their phones.
          When it was finished, Mr. Kabat-Zinn asked participants to raise their hand if their minds had wandered. Everyone in the audience raised their hands, including Matthieu Ricard, a Frenchman who has ordained as a Tibetan monk and been called "the happiest man in the world."
          Much of the discussion centered on how meditation might help executives perform better. "The main business case for mindfulness is that if you're more focused on the job, you'll become a better leader," Mr. George said.
Mr. George said that Wall Street firms, in particular, could benefit from the virtues of meditation.
          "It causes us to behave less aggressively," he said. "Certainly, the financial community could use some of that."
          Meditation, the panelists said, also can reduce stress, improve well-being and promote calmness, clarity and creativity.
          The room, with views of the Alps, was packed to capacity, with many attendees sitting on the floor. At two whiteboards around the room, artists drew interpretive illustrations of the themes being discussed.
          "Here we are in this beautiful country, and has anyone bothered to look up at the mountains?" Mr. George asked. "Or are we just looking around for the next person to meet?"

          It was perhaps an unusual theme for the power brokers at the event. But many on the panel and in the audience professed that meditation gave them a competitive advantage. And the burgeoning interest in meditation at the event mirrors a broader societal shift, in which yoga, mindfulness and meditation are becoming part of the mainstream.
          "Modern science is validating ancient wisdom," Ms. Huffington said. "We are living through a major tipping point."
          Attendees in the audience chimed in with their own stories. A professor from India described bringing meditation to her university with good results. An executive from an American company said mindfulness had improved relations in the C-Suite.
          Another theme espoused by the panelists was the virtues of putting down smartphones and getting away from computer screens. Mr. Kabat-Zinn opened the session with a request for attendees to put away their devices and focus on being present for the duration of the unusually long, two-hour session. Not everyone complied.
          "The truth is, we show much more compassion to our smartphones than ourselves," Ms. Huffington said. "If we treated each other as kindly as we treated our smartphones, it would be a major revolution."
          Attendees at the session included executives, academics and politicians from around the globe.
          "There is a hunger for this type of approach, especially at the World Economic Forum," said Dean Ornish, a clinical professor of medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. "We focus so much on success and power, but people are beginning to realize that the more at peace we are, the more we can spread peace in the world."
          And at least one financier was taking the message to heart. Paul Meehan, who manages Europe, the Middle East and Africa for Bain & Company, the management consulting firm, has been practicing yoga for five years and attended the session.
"This is one of the most impactful sessions I've been to," he said.

http://dealbook.nytimes.com/2015/01/21/amid-the-chattering-of-the-global-elite-a-silent-interlude/?emc=edit_dlbkpm_20150121&nl=business&nlid=69406752&_r=2

Davos Switzerland - Jean-Christophe Bott / European Pressphoto Agency

Sunday 18 January 2015

Wisdom - our Only Remaining Taboo

     Situation comedies have for decades featured ridiculously immature adults - males and females. Reality shows are the same, but these supposedly "real" people in addition tend to have nasty attitudes. "Nuke them back into the stone age" movies make the most money. CNN drools over every violent incident. In a recent stand-up routine on TV, Chris Rock observed how women are just as happy as men to dance to outrageously misogynistic rap music - women and men in the audience laughed heartily. At the recent 72nd annual Golden Globe Awards, hosts Tina Fey and Amy Poehler asked a series of actors "Who would you rather?", giving them two choices of actors of the opposite sex. Every actor, without a moment's hesitation, picked one on live television.
     Media saturate our consciousness with good-looking, sexy, obscenely rich "role-models", most of whom act like 2-year-old sociopaths. People start watching violent, sexually-explicit music videos and other pornography from early childhood.
     Clearly, "anything goes" today. But no, not quite! Mention the word "wisdom", and people run away as fast as they can.

     Wisdom: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2015/01/620-what-is-wisdom.html
     and: http://www.johnlovas.com/2012/04/psychospiritual-technologies.html

Stephen Alvarez, National Geographic   http://photography.nationalgeographic.com

Saturday 17 January 2015

Meaningful, Intentional Change

     "Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible."                                Francis of Assisi 
 
 

     “Fyodor Dostoyevsky [1921-1881] lived in a hopeless time and place, a world of pogroms, starvation, filth, and syphilis. His life was plagued by epilepsy, mental problems, and poverty. Yet he left this message: 
     ‘Love all of God’s creation, the whole of it and every grain of sand. Love every leaf, every ray of God’s light! Love the animals, love the plants, love everything. If you love everything, you will perceive the divine mystery in things. And once you have perceived it, you will begin to comprehend it ceaselessly, more and more every day. And you will at last come to love the whole world with an abiding, universal love.”
       Pipher M. “Writing to change the world.” Riverhead Books, NY, 2006.
 

     Meaningful change basics: http://www.johnlovas.com/2013/12/well-beyond-walls-friction.html



Tuesday 13 January 2015

Inspiration

     Can we become wise, so that we may consistently inspire & nurture ourselves and others? http://www.johnlovas.com/2013/03/suffering-mindfulness-wisdom-equanimity.html

     How many times have we been told by others, and ourselves, that we'd never be able to do, have, or be something?
     Similarly, the thought of intentionally cultivating wisdom is not even considered by most us. Instead, we stumble through life, learning what’s foolish / self-defeating / antisocial / horrible, by trying it out. If by chance we should come across the deep meaning of "wisdom", most of us doubt that we ourselves could possibly cultivate it. Deep down, many of us lack the self-confidence, discipline and drive to achieve meaningful goals.

     Henry Ford was spot on when he said, "Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right!" Watch this video




Thursday 8 January 2015

Mindful Practice CME - Ron Epstein MD & Mick Krasner MD - Oct 14-17, 2015



A retreat-like workshop designed to improve the quality of care that clinicians provide while improving their own resilience and well-being. It offers an experiential learning environment, with a focus on developing the capacity for self-awareness in stressful and demanding situations.

Designed for medical practitioners (physicians, NP's, PA's) and others involved in medical practice and education. No prior experience is required, however, experience with meditation or other contemplative practices is desirable.

Session themes include communication with patients/families, responding to suffering, difficult decisions, errors, professionalism, medical education, compassion, self-care, resilience and burnout.

Course Directors: Ronald Epstein, MD & Mick Krasner, MD


Mindful Practice: Enhancing Quality of Care, Quality of Caring and Resilience

WHEN
Wednesday, October 14, 2015 3:00 PM  -  Saturday, October 17, 2015 2:30 PM

WHERE
Chapin Mill Retreat Center
8603 Seven Springs Road, Batavia, New York 14020


Additional Program Details and Online Registration:
http://www.cvent.com/events/mindful-practice-enhancing-quality-of-care-quality-of-caring-and-resilience/event-summary-dc41c4d9f876475ba56e7c0136413fd2.aspx?i=9a66c0e6-41f4-4953-89fc-37e1952e69e5

Wednesday 7 January 2015

Misogyny, Dental Students & "the Good People"

     "Misogyny is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women. Misogyny can be found within many mythologies of the ancient world as well as various religions. In addition, various influential Western philosophers have been described as misogynistic." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogyny

     Bruce MacKinnon's cartoon in the Jan 6, 2015 Chronicle Herald newspaper shows a female dentist and her male patient, wearing a Dal Dentistry 2015 shirt. They're both looking at his X-ray, while she tells him "No cavities, but we did find significant moral decay."

     Those of us who call for quick, severe punishment for these foolish men's online behavior are, like fundamentalist extremists, unable to self-regulate - unable to see, accept and appropriately manage our own deficiencies & emotional problems. At this level of hysteria, it's just a power struggle between "perps" who've been caught and "self-righteous" who've not yet been caught. It has nothing to do with morals, ethics, justice etc. and everything to do with widespread psychosocialspiritual immaturity.
     When we do mature out of adolescent / emerging-adult black-or-white thinking, we no longer see others as "evil" (or sexual objects) and ourselves as "good" (or 'gentlemen') ie no longer project our own shadow onto scapegoats. We see how all of us are both flawed and wise, in need of understanding, kindness, boundaries, and yes, at times corrective measures. But how should we discipline our own beloved children - no matter how terribly they've messed up? Our own children are not disposable sacrificial lambs. We'd want our own loved ones rehabilitated to become decent, mature, productive members of society. Treating each other like this actually models "morality."
     Colonialism in India, communism in Europe and apartheid in South Africa, with their millions of tortured murdered victims, were all dismantled without bloodshed. Dalhousie university will deal with these 13 emerging adults' online stupidity in a mature civilized manner.


Sunday 4 January 2015

Illusion of Control & Fear

     “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; . . . who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”                                             Theodore Roosevelt

     Nor do people count whose 'contribution' is consistently trying to derail improvements with their cynicism - openly, or worse, behind closed doors. Such cowardice with a swagger is referred to as "the hidden curriculum" in health-care education.

     So what makes educated, accomplished adults behave like 'chicken shits'? Fear. Not just fear of what they don't know and can't control, but fear of fear itself. We naturally want to deal only with what we know well and thus can more or less control. The greater our illusion of control, the more we fear most of real life - which is far from being knowable and controllable. That's why so many health-care professionals are workaholics and will "never retire". It's failure to mature.
     Intelligent, educated adults can learn about what they fear - "leaning into the discomfort", gaining understanding and competence, becoming more balanced, and evolving as people. At some point, we all need to learn to navigate real life's constantly shifting, changing, paradoxical complexity with some semblance of grace. This is normal, healthy evolution of character / consciousness or psychosocialspiritual maturation.

       Hollis J. “Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life.” Gotham Books, NY, 2005.

       Brown B. "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead." Gotham Books, NY, 2012. http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability#t-153143


 

Saturday 3 January 2015

Ready for Wisdom?

     Our society openly admires and amply rewards:

          • the "lone wolf" going beyond societal conventions
          • fame, regardless of how it's achieved
          • bending & breaking rules "to win"
          • a "winner" 
 
     At the same time, the US - the poster child for this ethos - incarcerates more people per capita than any other country. We energetically punish "losers" - those who failed to evade our law enforcement and judicial systems. Convicted criminals embarrass us, not because they caused individuals and society to suffer, nor because we / society failed them, but because they spotlight our society's, and our own personal, psychosocialspiritual poverty. "The one who dies with the most toys wins" is the tragicomedic philosophy of life for too many of us.
     Big business has successfully converted society into a global feedlot of deadheads mindlessly "consuming" ever greater quantities of mass-produced garbage. Mary Jo Leddy, author of "Radical Gratitude", on CBC radio's Tapestry (10/13/02), pointed out the relationship between inherent, endemic dissatisfaction in consumer societies, and a deep sense of emptiness, inadequacy, powerlessness.

     How low must we sink before our schools and universities responsibly graduate decent, caring, wise human beings? Robert J. Sternberg PhD spent much of his career trying to move this agenda forward: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2014/01/teaching-for-wisdom-urgently-needed-now.html


Shower in Tuscany

Thursday 1 January 2015

Nurturing Wisdom to Heal Cynical Immaturity

     "A country will be safe from terrorism when its relationships with all parties in all directions are honest, noble, and just. ... security comes from aligning our attitudes and policies with the behaviors that will bring out the best in others, rather than doing the very things that are sure to provoke or entrench them. It is a principle that works at every scale. Healing through the cultivation of change in relationship can occur with ancient adversaries, with the developing nations of the world, with the population that swells our prisons, or with alienated members of our own family.
     This is not idealism, it is rooted in a deep understanding of human nature."

       Olendzki A. "Unlimiting Mind. The Radically Experiential Psychology of Buddhism." Wisdom Publications, Boston, 2010.

     Mary Hynes and Rebecca Newberger Goldstein both giggled from embarrassment while discussing Plato's advice to live for beauty, truth and wisdom. They realized how idealistic these values sound in today's cynical, materialistic climate.  
       CBC radio's Tapestry "What would Plato do?": http://www.cbc.ca/tapestry/episode/2014/12/26/what-would-plato-do-1/

Photo by Russ Wiley   www.dpreview.com