Too many conversations are problematic:
"Conversational narcissism is a term used by sociologist Charles Derber in his book, The Pursuit of Attention: Power and Ego in Everyday Life.
Derber observed that the social support system in America is relatively weak, and this leads people to compete mightily for attention. In social situations, they tend to steer the conversation away from others and toward themselves. 'Conversational narcissism is the key manifestation of the dominant attention-getting psychology in America,' he wrote. 'It occurs in informal conversations among friends, family and coworkers. The profusion of popular literature about listening and the etiquette of managing those who talk constantly about themselves suggests its pervasiveness in everyday life.'" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversation
In genuinely meaningful conversation, trust, respect, kindness & nurturing dominate. One may feel & accept one's personal need for attention, approval etc, but it's relatively easy to put these on the back-burner - prioritizing deep listening over speaking - to help give life to this miracle of shared openness, freedom & caring.
During meaningful conversation, we embody the spirit of Namaste: the depth of my being recognizes & honors the depth of your being.
See: http://www.johnlovas.com/2013/07/patiently-observe-bare-experience.html
and: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sense-of-belonging-through-embracing.html
and: http://www.johnlovas.com/2012/02/deep-listening.html
and: http://www.johnlovas.com/2012/01/whats-in-my-mind.html
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| Steve McCurry stevemccurry.com |
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