"This leaves us in a strange and painful dilemma. On one
hand we hunger for love – we cannot help that. Yet at the same time, we also
deflect it and refuse to fully open to it because we don’t trust in it.
This whole pattern – not knowing we’re loved as we are, then
numbing our heart to ward off this pain, thereby shutting down the pathways
through which love can flow into and through us – is the wound of the heart.
Although this love-wound grows out of
childhood conditioning, it becomes
in time a much larger spiritual problem – a
disconnection from the loving openness that is our very nature.
This universal human wound shows up in the body as emptiness, anxiety, trauma, or depression, and in relationships as the mood of unlove,
with its attendant insecurity, guardedness, mistrust, and resentment. And all
relationship problems follow from there.”
Welwood J. Perfect love, imperfect relationships. Healing the wound of
the heart. Trumpeter, Boston, 2006.
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