• from self-centered reactivity toward altruistic response to others’ needs
• from stuck in the past, or daydreaming of the future toward dynamic presence
• from rigidity & cynicism toward psychological flexibility, acceptance, humor & joy
• from “I can’t handle this” toward increasing abilities to manage complexity, ambiguity & difficulty with competence & composure.
These are NOT "shoulds", NOR things we "must do, or else", but intelligent, logical, mature changes we naturally, eventually make towards a more satisfying way of life.
The reinforcement is from DIRECTLY EXPERIENCING a higher quality of life. We seem to learn not from theory, nor other people's experience or advice, but by making our own mistakes (often repeatedly), then finally, we try something different that seems to work better. How long it takes for us to get tired of other directions depends on our individual tolerance for suffering & frustration.
See also: http://healthyhealers.blogspot.ca/search?q=Sternberg
and: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/search?q=wisdom
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| Shad Bay area, Nova Scotia, early morning, September 28, 2013 |
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