Hatred of the Feminine Archetype, Cynicism, Suffering

     “Hatred of women and of women’s autonomy is the most intimate of the psychic diseases that brings us down. As with Lyme disease, it can be years before we even recognize we are infected. More years pass before treatment is sought. Sometimes there doesn’t even seem to be a name for the way one feels. All the while, there is weakness, bitterness and pain. Violence, in word or deed, is often the only language familiar enough to express our confusion. To those who wish to shed a bit of this particular old skin of suffering, to swim more freely in the ever-changing, ever-multiplying rivers of life, I dedicate this book.”

       Walker A. “The same river twice. Honoring the difficult.” Pocket Books, NY, 1996.

     We stunningly underestimate the degree to which we're traumatized by the imperfect love ALL of us INVARIABLY receive from our parents - particularly men from their mothers, women from their fathers. Such imperfection is universal. Our damaged "inner child" can control our entire adult lives, driving us to depression, anxiety, cynicism, workaholism, violence, substance use, burnout, suicide. 
     CYNICISM is HUGE among those who consider themselves educated, intellectuals. FEAR of (another catastrophic) betrayal prevents acknowledgment, acceptance and nurturing back to health, the hurt inner child that colors our every thought, word & action. And yet

         "We are stardust.
          We are golden.
          And we've got to get ourselves back to the garden."              Joni Mitchell

     See also: http://mindfulnessforeveryone.blogspot.ca/2012/06/140-love.html