Friday, 27 August 2021

Healthy Attachment OR Authenticity?

      This is a very short excerpt from an EXCEPTIONALLY wise, in-depth (2hr 24min) interview of Gabor Maté MD by Tim Ferris about the central role of trauma in depression, low self-esteem, ADHD, addictions, etc, and their compassionate treatment:

Tim Ferriss: “You just mentioned … that your gut feeling / physiological intuition can help you. And that’s something that, for many reasons, I completely muted or ignored for a very long time. So, it’s been a process of getting reacquainted with that.”

Dr. Gabor Maté: “Let me address why we shut down our gut feelings, if I may. A human being has two fundamental needs (apart from the physical needs in infancy) in childhood. One is for attachment. Now, attachment is the closeness and proximity with another human being for the sake of being looked after or for the sake of looking after the other. Human beings, as mammals, and even birds, are creatures of attachment. We have to connect and attach because, otherwise, we don’t survive. If there’s nobody that’s motivated to take care of us, to attach to us that way, and if we’re not motivated to attach to others, we just can’t survive.

One additional thing is that the endorphins, which are the body’s internal opiate chemicals (which heroin and all the other opiates resemble), they help facilitate attachment.

If you take infant mice, and you knock out their endorphin receptors, so they don’t have endorphin opiate activity in their brain, they won’t cry for help and separate from their mothers, which would mean that they would die in the wild, which goes back to what happens in early childhood. When there’s stress and trauma, these endorphin systems don’t develop. And then, when people do heroin, it feels like a warm, soft hug to them. They feel love and connection for the first time. That’s why it’s so powerful.

So, we have this need for attachment, which, obviously, the human infant who is the most helpless, the most dependent, the least mature of any creature in the universe at birth, cannot survive without the attachment. And that attachment relationship, given that we have the longest period of development of any creature, well into adolescence and beyond, attachment is not a negotiable need.

But we have another need, which is authenticity. Now, authenticity – ‘auto’ to self - means being connected to ourselves. Just knowing what we feel and being able to act on it. That means our gut feelings. So, let’s look at how human beings evolved. For hundreds of thousands of years, and for 100,000 years or of this species existing on earth, how did we live? We didn’t live in cities and houses and so on. We lived out there in the wild, until very recently in human existence. Now, just how long do you survive in the wild, if you’re not connected to your gut feelings?

Tim Ferriss: Not very long.

Dr. Gabor Maté: Not very long. If you start using your intellect instead of your gut feelings, you just don’t survive. So, that’s a powerful survival need as well. So, attachment is a survival need. Authenticity is a survival need. But what happens if your authenticity threatens your attachment relationships? For example, as a 2-year-old, you get angry because you didn’t get that cookie before dinner.

But your parents can handle anger because they grew up in homes when there was rage-aholism, and they’re terrified of the very expression of anger, so they give you the message that good, little kids don’t get angry. The message you receive is not that good, little kids don’t get angry, but that angry little kids don’t get loved because your parents are on their cell. They won’t look at you. They talk to you in a harsh way. You’re not getting loved, not experiencing love, at that moment. Now, but you’ve got to stay attached. Guess what you’re going to suppress? The authenticity every time.

And this is how we lose connection to ourselves and to our gut feeling. So that, strangely enough, that very dynamic, which is essential for human survival in a natural setting, now becomes a threat to our survival in this more modern setting where to stay authentic is to threaten attachment. And so, we give up our authenticity. And then, we wonder who the hell we are and whose life is this and who is experiencing all of this. And who am I really? And so, that’s where the re-connection has to happen.

That’s where the healing happens is with that re-connection. But it’s because of that conflict, that tragic conflict in childhood between authenticity and attachment that most of us face, that we lose ourselves and lose connection to our gut feelings.


Dr. Gabor Maté Interview - The Tim Ferriss Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9B5mYfBPlY



 

Saturday, 31 July 2021

Learning to Rest in Silence

     A drowning person with arms desperately flailing to keep their head above water, closely describes how we can feel when severely stressed. It also describes the sometimes extreme efforts serious meditators exert trying to achieve desired goals during meditation practice.
     When - and only when - not overwhelmed by the fear of imminent drowning, we may realize that by simply relaxing in water, and retaining air in our lungs (while breathing), our face naturally comes to rest above the water line, without further need for other movement / exertion.
     This is a huge shift in understanding - the complete opposite of panicked flailing, wherein we exhaust ourselves with frantic physical & emotional exertion, including hyperventilation. Sadly, a drowning person is not even capable of hearing swimming instructions, never mind making good use of them
.
     HOWEVER, we all CAN practice & learn the above manoeuvre in shallow water.
     SIMILARLY, we can learn to meditate FAR more effectively AND naturally, by practicing the meditation below - initially while minimally stressed.

“MEDITATION: Resting in the gap
     Generally the mind is filled with an uninterrupted flow of thoughts and feelings that can feel overwhelming or oppressive. If you practice mindfulness, you may gradually develop an inner spaciousness that allows you to breathe deeply and negotiate the flow. In the direct approach, you may spontaneously discover natural spaces or pauses between the thoughts where an inner silence and stillness reveal themselves effortlessly.
     Take a few minutes to sit quietly and pay mindful attention to your breathing. Now turn your awareness to the cascade of thoughts and feelings. Even though it may feel incessant, every now and then you’ll notice a tiny gap between the thoughts that’s open, silent, unfurnished. One thought arises and passes away, and before the next thought arises, there’s a gap.
     Let yourself breathe into this gap; sense it fully, and gently prolong it. For the next ten minutes or so continue to notice, sense, and prolong the gaps or pauses between thoughts in a relaxed and gentle way, and feel into the silence and stillness that these gaps reveal.
     You may notice that the sense of a me disappears in the gap; that is, unlike thoughts, the gap is not self-referential, it’s just open and aware. This is a glimpse of your natural state. Continue to explore the gaps from time to time as you go about your day.

     Stephan Bodian. “Beyond Mindfulness. The Direct Approach to Lasting Peace, Happiness, and Love.” Non-duality Press, 2017. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED BOOK with MANY other valuable PRACTICES

     Fine Stephan Bodian interviews: https://batgap.com/stephan-bodian/
AND"The Direct Path: A Conversation with Sam Harris" https://www.stephanbodian.org/video

 


 

Friday, 5 March 2021

Thinking Outside the Box

     “I do have a strong idea about the limitations of the computer in our skulls — it’s just large enough to take care of our lives and must ignore an awful lot of what is going on around us.  . . . I have a very primitive approach to science — I wonder how the universe originated, how could it have originated … how could you make something out of nothing … and sophomoric ideas like that. And so, after having banged around with that — how do you make a universe out of nothing — I have decided, just logically, that it can’t be done and therefore it must always have existed. And so, from that, I get a sense of permanence and, also, an annoyance with the limitations of my head. And I really do think that what we perceive as time is simply a processing device in our heads to let us consider a little of reality at a time — we couldn’t let it all come in at once.” Kurt Vonnegut Jr.

     Neuroscience researcher, psychiatrist & author, Iain McGilchrist, among others, have said that "the brain is primarily a reducing valve" to prevent our consciousness from being overwhelmed by the massive amounts of constantly changing sensory data in which we're immersed. Rather than maximal clarity of awareness, the basic function of our mind seems to prioritize survival. This includes a number of built-in biases and other 'thinking mistakes': https://buffer.com/resources/thinking-mistakes-8-common-mistakes-in-how-we-think-and-how-to-avoid-them/


     Based on very little, narrowly-selected data (see above), we incorrectly assume that we understand what's going on, and though wrong, we may be absolutely certain we're right! (Burton RA. “On being certain. Believing you are right even when you’re not.” St. Martin’s Griffin, 2008.) These delusions provide a sense of control over our surroundings & life, necessary to function in a bewilderingly complex, constantly changing environment. BUT ...

     “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” Hamlet

     We have so much to learn, and we can IF we're brave enough & psychologically flexible enough to open our heart-minds to at least some of the data outside our comfort zone. Below are a few of the points discussed in a fascinating interview with Bruce Greyson MD about his research over the past 40 years on near death experiences (NDEs):

     Bruce Greyson BG: “A near death experience is a profound event that people experience when they are near death, on the threshold of death, or sometimes when they are afraid they’re about to die. And they include such things as a sense of leaving the physical body; going through some type of tunnel to another realm of light where they encounter a loving beam of light; they often go through a life review; and at some point may see other entities such as deceased loved ones; and then at some point they choose to come back to their bodies, or are told to come back. But the entire experience is infused by a sense of peace and well-being, which is in stark contrast to the near-death state where they’re terrified usually, and in a lot of pain.

     As a psychiatrist … I spend my life trying to help people make changes in their lives and know how difficult it is. A near death experience comes along, and in a second or two, it can totally transform peoples’ lives. It generally makes them more spiritual, more compassionate, more altruistic, and less concerned with physical things – material goods, power, prestige, fame, competition. And I’ll give you some examples of this.
     One fellow I knew was a high-school bully whose goal in life was to become a marine, and he eventually did become a marine. This was back in the ‘70s, and he served in Viet Nam. He was a sergeant leading his platoon and he was shot in the chest and had shrapnel all over his lungs. He was air-evaced to a hospital in the Philippines where he underwent surgery. During that surgery, he had a blissful near death experience. And when he awoke, he was a changed person. He was kind, compassionate. When he recovered, he was sent back into Viet Nam to lead his platoon again, and he found that he could not shoot his gun. The idea of hurting someone was just unthinkable to him. So he ended up leaving the marines, coming back to the States, and becoming a medical technician. And I’ve heard story after story like this. About police officers who had near death experiences, and again, could not partake in a violent life. One person I interviewed was a Mafia employee, and had to give up that career. I’ve also heard of people who were in competitive businesses who came back from near death experiences thinking that competition makes no sense, that we’re all in this together, and what you do to somebody else, you do onto yourself.
     They often come back with a sense of the golden rule as being what it’s all about – not a goal that you should aim for (as the rest of us do), but say they realize that this is the law of the universe, like gravity. That what you do to someone else, you do to yourself as well.”

Rick Archer RA: “Why do you think an NDE produces these personality changes?” 

     BG: “I don’t know the answer to that. As I said, I don’t know of anything else that is that powerful in transforming peoples’ lives. But it changes their attitudes, their beliefs, their values, and therefore their behavior. And I’ve talked to people in their 90s, who had the experience as teenagers, and they say it’s like it happened yesterday. I’ve never forgotten it and the changes stay with me.”

RA: “What effect has doing all this research had on you?” 

     BG: I started out in this career as a die-hard materialist. I grew up in a scientific family, where all we talked about, all we knew about, was the physical world. We weren’t opposed to the spiritual, it’s just never occurred to us there was anything beyond the physical. So I went through college and medical school thinking what you see is what you get, and when you die, that’s the end of it and there’s nothing beyond the physical.
     And then when I first started my internship in psychiatry, within a couple of months, I was confronted by a patient who was unconscious when I tried to evaluate her in the emergency room. I ended up talking to her roommate in a room down the hall to get some background information about her. Then I saw the patient the next day when she awoke. She stunned me by describing to me the entire conversation I had with her roommate, including what we were wearing, where we were sitting, and so forth, not making any mistakes at all. That just blew me away. Frankly, it terrified me. Just before I came to see her, I dropped some spaghetti sauce on my tie and covered it up with my lab coat so no one could see it. And when I talked to her roommate, it was so hot in the room, I unbuttoned the coat and she could see it. The patient, who at the time was lying unconscious down the hall in another room, knew about that. The roommate was in the intensive care unit overnight with no visitors allowed. The only way the patient could have known these things is if she had followed me down the hall to another room – it made no sense to me. As far as I was concerned, we were our bodies - how could you leave your body?

     Three different studies of scientists, one done in Scotland, one done in Belgium, and one done Brazil, have found that 50% of scientists believe that the mind is something independent of the body, something nonphysical that exists outside the brain.”

RA: “I ponder sometimes what it must be to live life if you think this body is all you are, and when this dies, that’s the end of it. It would be such a radically different perspective than what I’m accustomed to. Some people seem to be fine with it. Personally, I think I would find it very disturbing.”
    
BG: “Well, let me respond to that, because I started out life that way – for the first 25 years – and it was not disturbing at all. It was very comforting to know that we had all the answers, and there was nothing surprising out there. When you encounter something that can’t be explained by materialistic models, it’s quite unnerving. And it does require you to confront everything you thought you know.”

RA: "It’s a major issue in the scientific world – one of the main unanswered questions in science is ‘What is consciousness?’ There’s this big debate whether consciousness is created by the brain or vice versa. There’s this entrenched paradigm of materialism that is resisting the ever-growing body of evidence – anomalies that would overturn it."
    
BG: “Most of us grew up thinking that the mind is what the brain does because it seems that way in everyday life: when you get intoxicated, you don’t think very clearly; when you have a stroke or hit your head, that effects your thinking. But it does seem that in extreme circumstances, like near death experience, when the brain seems to be diminished, the mind seems to be doing better than ever. And there are other examples of this as well, including the studies done at Hopkins and elsewhere in the last decade with neuroimaging of psychedelic drugs, showing that the more elaborate mystical experiences are associated with a decrease in electrical activity in the brain.

     We have studied NDEs across the globe from different cultures and we also have records of NDEs going back to ancient Greece and Rome, and they all sound essentially the same in terms of the phenomenology. However, how people interpret what they experience, is influenced by their cultural background. An example is, most people report encountering a warm loving beam of light that makes them feel welcomed and well-protected. In Western countries that’s often interpreted as God or Christ, and you don’t hear that in Hindu and Buddhist cultures – they will say I saw Krishna or Buddha. However, even among Christians, they will say to you, ‘I’m going to call this “God” so you’ll know what I’m talking about, but it wasn’t the God I was taught about in church – it’s much bigger than that. I’m just using that word so we can communicate.’ ” 


RA: “One metaphor or analogy I find very handy for explaining the possible relation of consciousness to the body is that of the radio in relation to the magnetic field. The radio isn’t actually generating the music, it’s picking up fluctuations in the field and giving us music. And if you damage the radio, the music stops, but it doesn’t mean the fluctuations in the field have stopped.”
    
BG: “Exactly. And I think that’s a good analogy for how the brain and the mind interact. It makes sense in terms of evolutionary theory that the brain, having evolved as part of our physical body, would have this filter function to let in from consciousness, only those thoughts and feelings that are relevant to our survival in the physical world – how to find food, shelter, a mate, and so forth. And if the brain is perceiving things about deceased loved ones or a deity, those aren’t relevant to physical survival, so it’s sure to filter those out.”
    
Above from: Bruce Greyson MD interview https://batgap.com/bruce-greyson/

and a shorter, more concise, excellent interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MMJPjnShZs

 

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Saturday, 20 February 2021

How Much Suffering ... is Enough?

     Many of us remain stuck in one rut or another, for much of our adult lives. For a variety of reasons, we "keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results." A surprisingly common motto in this "ordinary unhappiness" is: "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." Of course, we first have to finally realize that our life IS 'broke.' If we're lucky enough to experience a major shake-up, we might become motivated pursue a far deeper, more intimate engagement with life.
     Jungian psychology can provide valuable insights into Mindfulness (MBSR). While Jungian psychology - like MBSR - is secular, it does use some Christian-sounding terminology. I've found that the more psycho-socially evolved people are, the less aversion they have towards various religions, even if they themselves are not affiliated with any specific religion. Much like hating oneself &/or others, rigidly holding animosity/anger/rage against one's own &/or others' religions absolutely freezes one's healing, growth & maturation. Such blocks often require professional help to resolve. The very basis of any form of healing & healthy maturation is gently releasing rigidly held, narrow, fear-based self-concepts & worldviews, and slowly, progressively opening up to psychologically more flexible, more spacious, inclusive, loving ways of being.

      “… the Jungian perspective divides the development of the personality into two fundamental periods. The first is from birth to psychological midlife, commonly referred to as ‘the first half of life.’ The second is from psychological midlife to death, and is commonly referred to as ‘the second half of life.’
     During the first half of life, our basic developmental task is to differentiate a personality as we grow out of childhood. That personality should be strong enough to find a place and to form relationships in the external world of societal life. It should be able to function effectively there, according to the common standards, aims, and goals of that world. In symbolic terms, this achievement is referred to in Jungian psychology as finding the common gold.
     Generally, once this task is completed, we begin feeling lost – as though somehow, in achieving our place in life, we have lost ourselves. That is, we do so if we are alert enough to let that much self-awareness through our defenses. If we don’t or can’t, we will develop some other attention-getting type of symptom, usually expressed in the form of an emotional or physical dis-ease. In either case, our primary task in the second half of life is to come into relationship with our unconscious and the center of our being – our Self – by finding our soul and the meaning of our life. In this way, we discover the true gold, the symbol of the illuminated soul.
     The Jungian analyst must take nature as his or her guide. What we do in analytic sessions is not so much therapy as it is furthering the development of the creative seed inherent in the analysand and nurturing that development. This process often includes going backward in a person’s life – especially family life – and helping the person create a friendly inner background in which his or her reconstruction can begin.
     Once the corner is turned from the first half of life to the second, one discovers that a lifestyle that looks good and works (no matter how well) isn’t sufficient to provide the true gold of fulfillment. This realization alone is enough to give us an idea of how difficult the work of individuation can be.
     During this turning point in personal growth, suffering evolves to a higher level. In this context, suffering comes to mean expending ‘blood, sweat, and tears’ with religious devotion in the effort to discover the true gold of our nature. It represents the courage to depart from conventional wisdom, ambition, pleasures, comforts, pride, and values in favor of following the creative voice within us. There are many possible wrong turns and no guarantees of success in this journey. But if we are successful, genuine self-realization rewards us by giving birth to a deeper experience of love, compassion, and joy in our lives.

     Bud Harris. “The Journey into Wholeness: A Jungian Guide to Discovering the Meaning of Your Life’s Path.” Daphne, 2020.

 

     “While religion at its best calls us to a community of the curious and a unity beyond dogma and tribalism; religion at its worst calls us to worship the very things that divide us and to pit people against one another in the name of one fantasy or other.”
      Rami Shapiro. “Holy Rascals. Advice for Spiritual Revolutionaries.” Sounds True, 2017.




Sunday, 14 February 2021

Love

“Let us fall in love again
And scatter gold dust all over the world.
Let us become a new spring
And feel the breezes drift in the heaven’s scent.
Let us dress the earth in green.
And like the sap of a young tree,
Let the grace from within sustain us.
Let us carve gems out of our stony hearts
And let them light our path of Love.
The glance of love is crystal clear
And we are blessed by its light.” 


Rumi




“The subject tonight is Love
And for tomorrow night as well.
As a matter of fact,
I know of no better topic
for us to discuss
Until we all die!"


Hafiz

 

 •

“In this choiceless, never ending flow of life
There is an infinite array of choices.
One alone brings happiness -
To love what is.” 

Dorothy Hunt
 
 
 

“Love is the whole thing.
We are only pieces.” 
 
Rumi
 
 
 
"There is silence everywhere,
you just have to listen for it.
I am surrounded by love,
I just have to stop looking for it.
Trust opens both,
If I let it." 
 
Joan Benner
 
 
 
P. Michael Lovas photograph

 

Monday, 18 January 2021

Lost in Translation

     Today is Martin Luther King Jr Day. Dr. King was murdered for the things he said & stood for. He was calling for a qualitatively different way of relating to ourselves, others, & life which a large proportion of Americans found & obviously still finds impossible to understand, disturbing & intolerable.

"Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power.
We have guided missiles and misguided men.
Our hope for creative living lies in our ability to reestablish
the spiritual needs of our lives in personal character and social justice.
Without this spiritual and moral reawakening
we shall destroy ourselves
in the misuse of our own instruments."                     Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. 

“Our goal is to create a beloved community and
this will require a qualitative change in our souls
as well as a quantitative change in our lives.”            Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.

     Why on earth would roughly 40% of Americans - most of whom claim to be Christians - find such words intolerable? Maybe Cynthia Bourgeault, an Episcopal priest, provides perspective:

     “I became more and more intrigued and disturbed about why it was that Christianity, a religion that clearly has one of the most loving and inclusive gurus that’s ever walked the face of the planet, at its epicenter, should tend to develop itself in formats that were so rigid, exclusive & non-generous. And why didn’t people walk the talk? It became more and more of a heartbreak to me.
     So it was actually through reading Jacob Needleman’s “Lost Christianity” in 1980, that the first pieces began to come together. He said at one point, ‘telling people to wake up and be conscious, is like telling stones to pick themselves up, sprout wings and fly to the sea.’
     There’s a missing piece, and until you can get that missing piece online, you can’t do the teachings of Jesus. ‘If one aspires to live the beatitudes or any Gospel teaching it is necessary to establish the level of consciousness from which they emerge.’ is virtually a direct quote from Symeon the New Theologian in the 11th century, who was the first one to be on to the fact that the Jesus teachings emerged from a very high level of consciousness, and that until you could basically run that program, you are going to be constantly dumbing it down to a place where it’s basically an inversion of itself. So Needleman was onto the fact that something is broken in the way that we pay attention that keeps our consciousness scrambled, low, distracted, and not under our free command, and it's this that is constantly making hash out of the Gospel that Jesus was teaching."
     Cynthia Bourgeault - Oct 23, 2017 interview: https://batgap.com/cynthia-bourgeault/

      There are at least 2 levels of understanding anything: literal & metaphorical. Literal refers to an objective fact that can be observed & agreed on by any number of observers eg she was crying. A metaphor uses a comparison to make a point eg her tears were a river flowing down her cheeks. Our present industrialized consumer society is materialistic & literal, almost exclusively focused on the production & acquisition of material goods: digital devices, clothes, cars, houses, property, alcohol / drugs etc. "The one who dies with the most toys wins" is weirdly funny and the philosophy of a LOT of people. Discussing non-material matters - which requires metaphor - very often creates confusion, smouldering anger, up to & including violence & murder, among those who are simply not capable of understanding at this level.

"One of the great liabilities of history
is that all too many people fail to remain awake
through great periods of social change.
Every society has its protectors of the status quo and its fraternities of the indifferent who are notorious for sleeping through revolutions.
But today our very survival depends on our ability to stay awake,
to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant
and to face the challenge of change."              Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.



Tuesday, 5 January 2021

Individual Responsibility and the Herd

     “Only too often the cultural man kills his natural man and nature replies by making the cultural man impotent. What more accurate statement of our modern dilemma can be made?”
     Robert A. Johnson. “The Fisher King & The Handless Maiden. Understanding the Wounded Feeling Function in Masculine and Feminine Psychology.” HarperOne, 1993.

     Our dominant culture removes not only the antisocial aspects of our wildness, but sadly, also the prosocial, animal wildness we require to be fully, vitally human. Each of us is influenced far more by our culture than we realize. The prevailing self-concepts & worldviews of our culture gradually become our own by default. But the present culture's worldview & our self-concept is mechanical, materialistic & meaningless - the universe and everything & everyone in it, according to this perspective, are essentially machines, composed of nothing more than bits of matter, that inevitably break down due to the law of entropy. And we wonder why there is so much loneliness, cynicism, depression, anxiety, burnout, misogyny, racism, suicide, violence, poverty, starvation, war, etc, etc.

     Einstein said that the most important question a human being needs to answer: " 'Is the universe a friendly place or not?' ... If we believe that the universe is unfriendly ... peace will be elusive at best."
     Joan Borysenko. “Fire in the Soul. A New Psychology of Spiritual Optimism.” Warner Books, 1993. 

     Before our current mechanical / materialistic culture, with its hyper-rational way of thinking & speaking, which alienated us from the world of direct experience, "natural" human beings felt intimately connected to Nature.
     Today, most of us were born & raised in cities - a situation as bizzarely unnatural as wild animals being bred & raised in zoos. And yet, we settle for a steady income, a roof over our head and dreamily shuffle along with our robot herd.

     “The Greek word mechane, which is the origin of our term machine as well as the root of machination, has a very sober connotation. Its root means to trick, and everything concerned with it has a dark character. Dreams of mechanical things failing in their purpose often alert the dreamer that he or she is using devices or attitudes that are unworthy of his or her best interest. It is commonplace in the dreams of people who are capable of high consciousness that mechanical things do not work well. …
     It’s true that our overly complex outer way of life needs reappraisal, but it is the inner form of trickery that is the most deadly. We could abandon all our cars and computers and airplanes as advocates of simplicity advise but still keep the inner trickery that is the real source of the infamous devil’s bargain. It is not necessary to give up the outer things to avoid the devil; but it is necessary to abandon our nefarious struggle to get something for nothing.
     Whenever you trick, psychologically speaking, you amputate the hands of your most tender feeling function, a price far too great for any outer advantage.
     … a mechanical view of life is wrong and extracts the feeling price. If an excess of ‘thing’ in life is eroding away one’s peace, it is the attitude that is wrong, not the things. Trickery as an attitude always involves getting something and refusing to pay the human, direct price for it.”
      Robert A. Johnson. “The Fisher King & The Handless Maiden. Understanding the Wounded Feeling Function in Masculine and Feminine Psychology.” HarperOne, 1993.

     “The naïve man often doesn’t know that there is a being in him that wants to remain sick. Inside each man or woman there is a sick person and a well person: and one needs to know which one is talking at any moment. But awareness of the sick being, and knowledge of how strong he is, is not part of the naïve man’s field of perceptions.”
      Robert Bly. “Iron John. A Book About Men.” 25th Anniversary Edition. Da Capo Press, 2004.


    “When Dr. Jung was asked the question ‘Will we make it?’ he always replied, ‘If enough individuals will do their inner work.’ There seem to be no collective solutions to this problem of wounded feelings, only individuals brave enough to take the problem personally. This is the new heroism.”
     Robert A. Johnson. “The Fisher King & The Handless Maiden. Understanding the Wounded Feeling Function in Masculine and Feminine Psychology.” HarperOne, 1993.


      “Modern science has come to understand that matter is only condensed energy. Sooner or later, science will also discover that what it calls energy, is only condensed psychic force, which discovery will lead in the end to the establishment of the fact that all psychic force is the condensation, purely and simply, of consciousness ie spirit. In other words, there is an energetic continuum running through all of creation, beginning in the virtually vibrationless awareness of pure consciousness, and ending in the solid world of rocks and tables. In contrast to the more traditional theological model, which views God and creation as rigidly separate, the wisdom model stresses the fluidity of movement along this energetic continuum, and the presence of divine consciousness at every level, regardless of the outward form.” Valentin Tomberg
      Cynthia Bourgeault. “The Wisdom Way of Knowing: Reclaiming An Ancient Tradition to Awaken the Heart.” Jossey-Bass, 2003.

      Concise instructions for continuous meditation practice:

               "There is silence everywhere,
          
          you just have to listen for it.
    
          I am surrounded by love,
         
          I just have to stop looking for it.
    
          Trust opens both,
         
          If I let it."                                         Joan Benner