Friday, 19 January 2018

Meditation Practice & Prosocial Emotions like Compassion

      “… meditation leads to all kinds of great cognitive outcomes. It’ll increase your scores on standardized tests, enhance your creativity, and even make you more productive at work. In short, it’s touted as a kind of ‘supercharger’ for the mind. These claims are justified because much of meditation training focuses on learning how to master attention, thought flow, and focus, all of which are closely related to executive function. And since such cognitive abilities can be used for self-control, the notion that meditation lessens cravings and increases success seems to logically follow. … (but) all the cognitive benefits of meditation — ​better focus, better memory, etc — ​were traditionally considered secondary to its true purpose: development of a deep and abiding compassion. All the cognitive training is simply a means to an end, and it is that end — ​a feeling of great compassion for all beings —​ that ultimately makes self-control and related virtues more automatic.

     The central role played by compassion is often ignored, thanks to a historical accident. The scientists who first began to study meditation were primarily neuroscientists and those interested in cognition and memory. … But if you think about it from a historical standpoint, the goals of early meditation teachers … weren’t enhancing test scores or memory. To the contrary, they were centered on fostering ethical decisions and compassionate behavior, … on ending suffering. But because these phenomena were inherently social in nature, they were ignored as neuroscientists turned their lenses on what meditation could do to enhance the information-processing power of the brain. This was a gap I wanted to fill. If meditation, compassion, and self-control were truly linked, … we first needed to find some evidence, and that required studying the effects of meditation in an entirely new way. 
     The first step in most scientific investigations of meditation is to recruit people … 
     We now had two groups of people who were equally interested in meditation, but only one of which contained people who actually had some degree of authentic training. … our participants believed that at the end of the eight weeks they’d be coming to the lab to have their cognitive skills tested. Little did they know that the true experiment would begin in the waiting room. 
     If we wanted to examine meditation’s effects on compassion and self-control, we needed to do it in a fairly normal environment. … In short, we needed to design a challenge that would offer people the opportunity to keep a mild comfort or to give it up to benefit someone in pain. … When our participants arrived in the lab’s waiting room, they saw three chairs. The first two were occupied by actors working for us. So, as you’d expect, each participant (as they were scheduled to come to the lab one at a time) would sit down in the remaining chair to await being called into the lab for testing. After a few minutes had passed, the relative quiet of the waiting room was interrupted by an elevator door sliding open at the opposite end of the hall. Out came a young woman on crutches who had her foot in an orthopedic boot. The woman, who also worked for us, hobbled down the hall, wincing a bit with each step, until she entered the waiting room, where, somewhat dejectedly, she leaned against the wall with a bit of a whimper, as every chair was taken. 
     What would participants do? If they wanted to act nobly, the answer was clear: offer her their chair. But that meant sacrificing their own immediate comfort to aid another and thus would take some degree of self-control. That might sound like an overstatement on my part, as many people might (and did when we asked them) predict that a solid majority of people placed in this position would have readily offered up their chair. As it turned out, though, only 16 percent of “normal” people in our experiment — ​and by normal I mean the ones who hadn’t meditated for the previous eight weeks ​— ​suggested that the woman in pain take their seat. 
     This was a dispiriting finding, and sadly it wasn’t a fluke. We ran the experiment a second time and got similar results. Now, truth be told, we were stacking the deck a little. The other people who were sitting in the room when a participant arrived—​the actors who didn’t offer their chairs—had been instructed by us to ignore the woman on crutches. They were to read a book or thumb their phones as she entered, appearing to pay her no heed. Yet the sighs and similar sounds of discomfort she uttered were audible enough for everyone to hear, meaning it was clear to our participants that these others were willfully feigning ignorance of the injured woman’s plight. That was the point. This type of mass indifference is specially meant to reduce people’s motivations to help. If nobody else is bothering to assist someone in need, why should you? It’s a pernicious phenomenon known as the bystander effect, and it allows people to stand by passively while all manner of suffering occurs right in front of them. In our experiments it worked all too well. 
     When we examined the meditators, however, quite a different story emerged. After only eight weeks of mindfulness practice, the percentage of people who felt compassion and sacrificed their own comfort to aid the woman in pain more than tripled, rising to 50 percent. That’s a big difference, and one we and others have been able to replicate using related measures of compassionate behavior. When considered in combination, these findings show how meditation bolsters self-control via compassion. … People often need self-control to act with kindness and generosity. Whether that self-control is aimed at sacrificing to aid others or their own future selves, they need a push to give up their immediate comfort and thereby raise the likelihood that they’ll benefit from a returned favor or a better outcome down the line. And while it’s true that we can remind ourselves daily to be kind and exert the requisite willpower to behave accordingly, practicing mindfulness —​ a route by which compassion begins to emerge automatically and continuously — ​offers a better route.”


     Excerpted from: David DeSteno. “Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride.” Eamon Dolan/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2017.

 
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Saturday, 6 January 2018

Opportunities Everywhere!



     “Listening is the oldest and perhaps the most powerful tool of healing. It is often through the quality of our listening and not the wisdom of our words that we are able to effect the most profound changes in the people around us. When we listen, we offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness. Our listening creates sanctuary for the homeless parts within the other person. That which has been denied, unloved, devalued by themselves and others. That which is hidden.... 
     Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other silence. It is hard to find. In its presence we can remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which to build a life.”                  Rachel Naomi Remen 


     “Times of transition are strenuous, but I love them. They are an opportunity to purge, rethink priorities, and be intentional about new habits. We can make our new normal any way we want.”  

       Kristin Armstrong, professional road bicycle racer, three-time Olympic gold medalist, winner of the women's individual time trial in 2008, 2012 & 2016.
 

     “It’s no small thing to be born human. A lot of ‘stuff’ comes along with the opportunity of human life. Zazen (open-awareness meditation) is an incredible doorway for getting to the bottom of it all, and learning to live your life out of what you directly experience yourself: not what somebody tells you, not what you read, not because you should, but because your own direct experience of yourself and your life tells you what to do.”              John Daido Loori


     “Life and death are of supreme importance. Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost. Each of us should strive to awaken. Awaken. Take heed, do not squander your life.”            Dogen Zenji 




      “I think I’ve learned so many things from this experience. I don’t think in 54 years I truly understood the suffering, and once this happened to us (her husband being diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis {ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease}), I was amazed at how I just didn’t pay attention to all the suffering going around. Before ALS I had my perfect little life, I was really enjoying it – we were both enjoying it, very busy, and I just didn’t see that. And I would never want to go back to that blindness. And I hope that at some point in the future I’ll be able to give back in some small way the amazing love and devotion that we’ve been showered with throughout this experience. So I wouldn’t trade that in. … I think maybe we see (the suffering), but don’t feel it. I could see and think ‘Oh, that’s so terrible,’ but I never felt it. It’s terrifying to feel it. But once you’ve experienced it, it opens you up to so much other suffering, and to knowing that you do have the opportunity to help. … It’s really a different way to live.” Ev Emerson, Bruce Kramer’s wife
Bruce Kramer's EXCEPTIONAL interview by KristaTippett
http://onbeing.org/program/feature/in-the-room-with-bruce-kramer/7424 



      “I didn’t need to not be angry. I just needed to stay with my anger long enough to see what it actually was and how it arose (or co-arose with my chicken heart). This kind of big-picture thinking, where things make sense as a whole when taken in relation to each other and not as unconditionally separate parts, is the spiritual project in a nutshell. Spiritual work is not the same thing as self-help. It is not meant to ‘everlastingly improve’ or fix you. It’s a means to help you see clearly what’s been there all along, beneath the surface, both in the larger sense and within yourself. 

     You don’t have to change things. Just see them properly, bear witness, and they fall into place. Attention, not intervention, leads to true healing. If you spend all of your time and energy trying to become a better person or ‘change the world,’ you miss a profound opportunity to see how all the imperfect, muddled, fucked-up things in our world come together, find their place among each other, and then form something far greater.”
       Shozan Jack Haubner. “Zen Confidential. Confessions of a Wayward Monk.” Shambhala, Boston, 2013.


     “I’m struck by how suppressed the life energy of many students in my current undergraduate class seems to be. … I keep sensing something is somewhat missing: perhaps the ‘primordial confidence’ … 
     Students are not given much opportunity to attend to their inner lives, to explore their unfathomable riches, to plummet the depth, and to be nourished deeply by such engagements. Yet, it is only through such engagements that energetically charged awareness deepens and expands, connecting self with cosmos, and fully reconciling us with life and universe."
       Bai H, Cohen A, Culham T, et al. “A Call for Wisdom in Higher Education. Contemplative Voices from the Dao-Field.” in: Gunnlaugson O, Sarath EW, Scott C. eds. “Contemplative Learning and Inquiry Across Disciplines.” State Univ of New York Press 2014.


Tuesday, 2 January 2018

Opening to Life

     "A human being is part of the whole called by us 'universe',
a part limited in time and space.
We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of consciousness.
This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.
Our task must be to free ourselves from the prison
by widening our circle of compassion
to embrace all living creatures
and the whole of nature in its beauty." Albert Einstein


     "The small man builds cages for everyone he knows. While the sage keeps dropping keys all night long for the beautiful, rowdy prisoners." Hafiz